I saw this yesterday online
I love public proposals. I really do. I think they are great and I think for some couples, sharing the proposal with friends and family is a wonderful idea. The first one I ever saw was when I went to a special screening of Moulin Rouge and a man had organised to propose to his girlfriend before the movie started. She obviously said yes.
But public proposals put alot of pressure on the recipient. What if they don’t want to get engaged? Or would like to in the future but not right now? You’d hope that the two would have spoken about it prior to the public proposal but what if they hadn’t because one party wanted it to be a complete surprise?
I’d imagine you’d feel quite trapped into saying yes, and then trapped into staying engaged even if you didn’t want to because everyone in your life would know about it and go on about how romantic it was. Imagine having to explain that after all that effort they went through that in the end you said no.
It’s a risky one. And one that should be really thought out. It’s important to remember who you’re proposing to as well. I have some friends who would absolutely love it because they love sharing their lives with the people around them and some that would just hate it.
I’m in the hate pile. I don’t like being the center of attention and I don’t like being put on the spot. My partner and I are fairly private so for me personally a public proposal doesn’t really reflect our relationship. We’re also not overly affectionate with each other or real romantics so I think it’d feel forced rather than natural. And you know what? I don’t like surprises. But mostly, my biggest fear of a surprise, public proposal is having an ugly ring! If someone is going to spend that much on a ring, I’d want to love it!
Would you love a public proposal or would you prefer it be kept between the two of you?